I posted this as a “Note” on Facebook, since I easily have a better chances of someone’s reading it there than here. But I’ll post it here too, for posterity).
Having a discussion—or an argument—with someone, without mutual respect, is just fighting. And in my opinion, pointless; you might as well be two dogs barking at each other.
And if you’re fighting with someone who is pro-Trump, or pro-Sanders, or pro-Cruz, or pro-Clinton, you will only further their resolve. That’s right: you will make them even more sure of themselves, more dedicated to ideals that you oppose.
So, if you know someone who is for a candidate you despise, you need to start the conversation with respect. This doesn’t mean you have to respect the candidate: just respect the person you’re talking to.
“But how can I respect people who don’t respect me?” Good question. But the people you’re fighting with are asking that question too. Maybe if you offer some respect, some of them will do the same. Eventually.
(This won’t be at all easy, and I’m not saying I am even up to the task myself. Which is why, when I can muster the restraint, I choose not to speak at all. I don’t want to add fire to the bellies of those I disagree with.)
Things are more heated than ever in all of the political discussion forums. From Facebook to Reddit to the comments section underneath any news article. It is up to us to see to it that these discussions yield positive results.
Find common ground. Ask questions. Cite your sources. Re-read everything you write several times before clicking that “post” button.
(And by the way, this is not directed at anyone in particular, for anything you’ve posted or said. I’ve had this on my mind for a while, and I’m still trying to find the best way to articulate it. Nor am I the first person to have these ideas—I’m just trying to put them in my own words.)
Thank you for reading the above.