{"id":1100,"date":"2015-05-07T13:00:53","date_gmt":"2015-05-07T21:00:53","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.bukkhead.com\/blog\/?p=1100"},"modified":"2015-05-07T08:13:11","modified_gmt":"2015-05-07T16:13:11","slug":"to-err-is-human-to-forgive-is-um","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.bukkhead.com\/blog\/2015\/05\/07\/to-err-is-human-to-forgive-is-um\/","title":{"rendered":"To Err is Human, to Forgive is\u2026 um\u2026"},"content":{"rendered":"

Postaday for May 7th: Forgive and Forget?<\/a>\u00a0<\/strong>Share a story where it was very difficult for you to forgive the perpetrator for wronging you, but you did it \u2014 you forgave them.<\/em><\/p>\n

I can\u2019t remember having ever forgiven someone because, you know that proverb: forgive and forget. Wait, not proverb. Psalm. No, not psalm, maybe… idiom? Cliche. Saying? Folkway. I don\u2019t know what it\u2019s called! But I always do it: forgive and forget.<\/p>\n

Remember that movie, Momento<\/em>? (it would be a delicious irony if you didn\u2019t). I\u2019m like that guy when it comes to forgiveness. I\u2019ve even taken to tattooing the names of people I\u2019ve forgiven on my thigh (this is a total lie but so is the forgetting thing).<\/p>\n

I can\u2019t tell you the numbers of times I\u2019ve found myself sitting in a filthy motel room, needle in one hand and a broken Bic pen in the other, cell phone cradled in one shoulder as I talk to some strange person about forgiveness. These memories are in black and white. There\u2019s a post it note stuck to one knee, with a name on it, or names, or sometimes a doodle of a duck. I think I must have had some serious issues with ducks in my life because I\u2019m always finding post it notes around my house and I can\u2019t help but think, when the heck did I draw this?<\/p>\n

On my right leg I\u2019ve got my wife\u2019s name three or four times, which make sense: people in love hurt each other all the time. Forgive and forget, it\u2019s how a marriage lasts. Also on that leg: my dad, my mom, by brother, and my wife\u2019s sister and her husband. That last one has something to do with a train in Switzerland. Or maybe Sweden. I don\u2019t really remember.<\/p>\n

On my left leg I\u2019ve got Robert Downey Jr, the 2005 Pittsburgh Steelers, Twizzlers, and the ending of Gillian Flynn\u2019s novel Gone Girl<\/em>.<\/p>\n

Notoriously absent: Oklahoma City, a bouncer at the Taj night club in Vegas, Verizon, 1986, and every single freakin’ person who changes lanes more than once in less than a quarter mile on Highway 5.<\/p>\n

In general I\u2019m a pretty easy-going person. I don\u2019t have to forgive very often because I don\u2019t take offense too often. At least I don\u2019t think I do. It\u2019s hard to remember. For example, I don\u2019t remember names very well at all. Maybe the reason I can never remember names is because those people always offend me? Maybe, instead of being embarrassed every time I see someone and realize I can\u2019t recall their name, instead I should be angry?<\/p>\n

\u201cHey good to see you again!\u201d
\n\u201cHi\u2026\u201d
\n\u201cJason, right?\u201d
\n\u201cYes\u2026 uh\u2026\u201d
\n\u201cIt\u2019s Dave.\u201d
\n\u201cAh, right, Dave. You bastard.\u201d<\/p>\n

Memory\u2019s a funny thing. So\u2019s forgiveness. And it occurs to me that a saying I\u2019ve heard, \u201cfirst you must forgive yourself\u201d does not bode well for me. Or maybe that\u2019s an idiom. Or a Psalm. Darn it, I can\u2019t remember!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Postaday for May 7th: Forgive and Forget?\u00a0Share a story where it was very difficult for you to forgive the perpetrator for wronging you, but you did it \u2014 you forgave them. I can\u2019t remember having ever forgiven someone because, you know that proverb: forgive and forget. Wait, not proverb. Psalm. No, not psalm, maybe… idiom? … <\/p>\n

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